Who is educating your child?

English: People with Asperger's Syndrome are o...

English: People with Asperger’s Syndrome are often preoccupied with particular, specialized areas of knowledge, such as this boy’s interest in molecular structure. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A program with John Stossel tonight about education make me queasy. It seems that Teachers’ Unions, school boards and the federal government are all sleeping in one giant bed these days and the cost of keeping the bed warm and cozy is unimaginable. Actually, it isn’t the cost that bothers me nearly as much as the fact that no child is receiving the education he/she was promised.

A failing school within a school district receives more money, none of which anyone knows how to manage, to produce less-educated kids. If a charter school within a district is doing a super job with less money per student, it make the bad schools with more money per student look even worse. They can’t have this. So, what do they do? They close the charter school who was graduating 100 percent of the senior classes, of whom all were accepted at four-year colleges. Many of the students finished the four-year colleges in three years. This is the school they chose to close, not the failing schools.

Am I still living in America? I think I may have drifted to another planet while I was sleeping one night. We give more money to schools that are bankrupt, graduating less students, three-fourths of whom can’t read beyond a fifth-grade level, and close the schools that are graduating all of their students who read on a college level. Am I the only one who sees the stupidity of this scenario?

The sad truth is this: If you aren’t educating your own children, they probably aren’t receiving an education. I have two gifted children. One child has Asperger Syndrome. This is a form of Autism. My son did not socialize outside of our family. It was part of his identity as a child with Asperger’s. This drove his teachers crazy. I received notes daily that said: “Ms. Stanley, We feel your son would benefit from testing to better place him according to his abilities.” Read: Test him for special education.

At the end of his seventh-grade year, I paid a psychologist to test my son. He was gifted, just as I had known. I took his test with his I.Q. to his teachers. I told them, “Since my son is more intelligent than all five of you combined, I think I will take him out of public school and teach him at home myself.”

My son graduated ahead of his class and has received three degrees, so far. I told you this story to say, If you want your child to receive an education, teach him yourself. Most teachers are too lazy to find the way your child learns. I can say this because I have taught school. My daughter teaches school. We put our hearts and soul into teaching. We’ve had to work with teachers who were there for the paycheck and the summer vacations.

Find out what level your child is reading at. Ask your child some questions that children his age should be able to answer. Ask what your child is learning at school. Are the teachers spending a week teaching that two moms or two dads is just as good as one mom and a dad? If they are, they aren’t teaching your child how to make change for a dollar.

No matter what country you live in, be a part of your child’s education. America is slowly going under and taking the best and brightest children with her. Keep your foot on the back of someone’s neck until you find out why your child isn’t being taught how to read on grade level. Make sure your child is ready to graduate and move on to college.

7 thoughts on “Who is educating your child?

  1. I’m a big fan of public education because I believe it’s more indicative of the world at large and will provide the child with a better idea of just exactly what the world is like. Sending one to a private school only allows one to interact with the privileged one percent, and teaching a child at home doesn’t allow that all-important interaction with other children and peers, the same type of interaction that one will need in the work force with peers, supervisors, and underlings.

    • Thanks for commenting. Like most everything in life, no one situation is best for everyone. It is good to have choices, at least for now. The future appears to be a little uncertain. I enjoyed public schools, but my gifted son, with a mild form of autism, did not. I home-schooled him from 7th grade through 12th. He did not suffer lack of socializing, but went on to obtain three degrees. I really don’t feel he would have done so well had I left in in public schools. Anyway, each situation is different and it will never be such that all children get to choose how they are educated. We’ve made it this far, maybe public education will continue to get better.


  2. Great post, Barbara! I home-schooled my daughters for 3 years (various reasons). Pros and cons – but big pro was teaching them the value of education and that it is a commitment to themselves. It grieves me also that the American dream of education for all is corrupted in many places. And I don’t know what to do about it. Other than your suggestions. Plus, maybe, dreaming that parents will insist at home that their kids do their work and respect their teachers, that parents respect and support teachers with communication and even materials if needed (I have seen several teachers pay for BASIC materials out of their own paychecks because of low funding). And expressing my respect and gratitude (which I do often) for those, such as you and your daughter, who literally CHANGE HISTORY ON A DAILY BASIS by educating/mentoring/inspiring other peoples kids. I see so much that HINDERS good teachers’ efforts and wears them down, such as many requirements with low support, high class sizes, impotence dealing with those who so chronically disrupt classes (for whatever reason – organic, sad home-lives, never taught respect, etc.) that the students who care have to find their own way almost. I’m hearing you. I wish I knew what to do. For now, though, THANK YOU to you and your daughter, and other wonderful teachers in the trenches. Blessings, Diane

    • No matter how my day is going Diane, a comment from you always raises my spirits. I appreciate you so much. I know how difficult your life has been, but you have such a big heart and so much love to give and express. You truly are a special lady. I was once in your situation, but the abuse was mostly physical. I grew up in a home where my mother was beaten at least once a week. There were five of us children and we grew up insecure and not knowing how to have a friendly relationship with other kids. Life certainly isn’t a picnic for anyone, I suppose. One thing I did learn was if you see an injustice, say something. Even if you don’t have the ability to stop the injustice yourself, tell someone who can. I’m not sure if many people are listening anymore. It was wonderful to hear that you heard me. I have been preaching for the last twenty years that parents need to get more involved. I know they are tired, but there is nothing they have in their lives more precious than their children. I wish every parent had your strength and your capacity to love. Then, maybe, they would know what was going on with their children. Love you much girlfriend.

      • “One thing I did learn was if you see an injustice, say something.” AMEN. Just speaking out loud that injustice exists and is wrong reinforces the thoughts in our own minds and whoever hears us. If we speak up, nothing may change, or change soon….but if we don’t, it’s almost guaranteed that nothing will change, ever. You encourage me, too, my friend. What a difference from our initial exchange on Mike’s blog, eh!! Go figure. LOL! Love to you! Diane

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